Even before we were married, Scott and I were strong advocates for orphan care and prevention abroad, as well as adoption and foster care support domestically. We've given our time and resources to organizations and individuals who have been called into the world of adoption and foster care for a long time.

Over the years, we had conversations about whether or not we wanted to foster or adopt, and all of those conversations were part of a healthy progression toward figuring out what this would mean to our family. At one point, we felt like we weren't ready. Later, we felt like our kids weren't ready. Our prayerful decision to start the process to become foster parents came only after we felt a sense of peace that it was the right timing.

The timeline of the major events looks like this:

  • September 2015: We decide to begin foster care training.

  • April 2016: We start our classes.

  • July 2016: We finish our classes and have our final walk through with our licensing worker. We submit our paperwork.

  • November 30, 2016: We receive our license.

  • December 6, 2016: Baby E arrives at our house.

  • February 10, 2016: Sister F joins our family.

  • January 2018: We find out Baby's parental rights are being terminated.

  • February 3, 2018: We foster the girls' newborn sister, K, until we move her to her new home on February 12.

  • January 15, 2019: The girls’ mom and F’s dad surrender parental rights.

  • January 29, 2019: E’s father’s parental rights are terminated. We are officially on track to adopt both F and E. Their sister, K, will also be adopted by her foster family.

If you are new to the world of foster care, or even if you think you know a lot about foster care, here's an incredible graphic that explains what our state-run welfare system provides. The statistics are heartbreaking, but we must approach our communities with eyes, hearts, and arms open if we want to grow stronger in the broken places.